An update on Dave


These are a few photos of my husband, Dave, the love of my life, my friend, my helpmate, my advisor, my protector. We each served in these roles for each other. Our 50th wedding anniversary is upcoming on June 3, 2022.

Dave refused to get a covid vaccine despite a health history that put him at high risk. I chose to be vaccinated and boostered to protect us both. I also made many other life adjustments to try to protect him; many of these he found to be annoying. I wore my mask. He wore these when they were required by mandate or store policy, but he left his nose uncovered.

Dave came down with a "cold", which I caught two days later. He refused to seek medical advice or testing. He continued to protest when he deteriorated and I called for an ambulance to transport him to the emergency department.

He tested positive for covid, and so did I. I wasn't allowed to see him in ICU until about 4 hours before his death. I thank God I was able to be with him, that we were able to tell each other that we loved each other, and that I was able to surround him with love and prayer as he passed from this life to the next.

I have now completely recovered from covid. 

I go to plan his funeral today.

Please, get your vaccines and get a booster when you are eligible. Take steps to protect yourself and others. I know the news reports can be confusing and seem to change daily, but you CAN take steps to help yourself and others stay healthy or mitigate the chances of severe disease and death.

Do it for yourself. 

Do it for those you love. 

Do it for me.


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53 comments:

  1. I am absolutely shocked and shattered and I would like to express my deep felt compassion.

    Very sorry to read about your lost, thinking of you. Wish you the best in this sad time.

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  2. I am so sorry to hear this. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope people read this are encouraged to get vaccinated.

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  3. I am so so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you at this time. Words are not enough.

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  4. Oh Sue. I am so sorry. Your words require no other explanation. RIP Dave.

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  5. Oh so tragic and unnecessary. My deepest condolences.

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  6. Sue, my heart truly breaks for you! I am so sorry your have lost Dave to this horrible virus. I know many who have passed away from it--even a few elder people who were vaccinated--it is so very cruel that older people are especially susceptible to it and sometimes our immune systems are too weak to fight it. Your post is a warning to all to take it seriously and to vaccinate, get a booster when advised, and even then wear a mask and take precautions if one is over 65. Please accept my sincere condolences on your loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

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  7. I am very sorry for what is happening to you. It is a very sad thing to be stubborn and in denial about this virus. I wish you strength and courage in these tragic circumstances

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  8. I feel your sorry and pain. I'm sending you warm mental hugs through the wires. My sister celebrated her 50th anniversary with her ill husband 3 years ago. He died 2 weeks later. She's better than she was but the hole from the loss of her partner will always be empty. We both have you in our prayers.

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  9. I am deeply sorry for Dave. Please be strong.

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  10. I'm so very sorry to hear of your husband's passing. My sincere condolences to you and your family.

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  11. Oh Sue, I am SO sorry for your loss. I feel so heartbroken for you now. Please know that you are in my prayers. Thank you for sharing your story with us today. xoxo

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  12. Oh, I am so sorry for your loss. May you find strength in the days to come.

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  13. oh no, I am so so so so sorry, thinking of you here and sending mental hugs.

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  14. I'm so shocked by what I read on your post, my sweet friend,
    I can hardly find the words to comfort you for this so terrible lost!
    You're in my prayers, dear friend, take care as you can,
    I'm sure that's what your Dave would like you to do!
    Sending my warmest hug
    XO Daniela at ~ My little old world ~ (Dany)

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  15. I am so sorry for your loss. RIP Dave.

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  16. I am so sorry for your loss but thankful your better and that you put this amazing event on for us. I hope you have a wonderful day and a blessed week. I look forward to returning and seeing more of your post.

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  17. I am so sorry for your loss. It’s good of you to share your painful story and encourage people to get vaccinated.
    xxoo
    Maggie

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  18. I am shocked to read this I am sorry for your loss Sue such sad circumstances too, my very best wishes to you RIP Dave

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  19. I'm terribly sorry for your loss, Sue. Sending you lots of love.

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  20. Heartfelt condolences to you and all bereaved.
    May his soul rest in peace.

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  21. I'm very, very, very sorry for your loss. I don't have the right words to comfort you in these difficult moments. Please, accept a virtual big hug from me.
    RIP Dave.

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  22. I am shocked and shaken by the sad news, Sue.

    I pray that God grants you strength and courage to soldier on.

    My sincere condolences to you and your family.

    ((((hugs)))

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  23. OMG, I am so sorry! I came here early to check on him. May you feel surrounded by love in this time of loss.

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  24. So very sorry for your loss. I wish you strength to carry on.

    R. TΓ€ysin arkista vol.2

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  25. So shocked and sorry for your loss. Hope this would encourage others to get vaccinated....

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  26. So sad, I'm shocked to read this. RIP.
    My prayer for you

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  27. I am so sorry for your loss. RIP Dave. Glad to know that you have fully recovered from Covid. May you have the peace and strength to prepare for the funeral and for the days ahead. Take care.

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  28. My deepest condolences. May you be well to remember the happy times you shared together.

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  29. I am so very sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences, and warmest prayers for the days ahead.

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  30. Very sorry for your loss. Unfortunately you're not alone and I know of many couples who have suffered the same tragedy for the same reason.

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  31. Sue, I am so sorry for your loss. I am sorry for the events that led up to it. I hope you continue to feel healthy and that your memories from years together are a comfort in this difficult time.

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  32. Sue, we are so deeply sorry for your loss. Sending you love, light, and prayers as you mourn your beloved Dave's passing. XO

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  33. Oh, Sue, I'm so sorry! :(
    I will lift you up in prayer for strength today, and whenever I think of you.
    Thank you for sharing and reminding people to stay safe and get vaccinated.

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  34. I am shocked about your loss. My deepest condolences. I wish you the power to continue your life knowing that now there is an Angel who will protect you!
    I send you my prayers!

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    love & love,
    -g-

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  36. Oh, so sorry to read this. Deepest condolences.
    All the best and keep on living on
    Gerda

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  37. Oh, so sad to read. Made me cry as I know how hard it is to lose the love of your life. My heart is breaking for you because to be married that long, they are half of you that will be deeply missed. Yes, I got my shots early on, and recently the booster. My daughter is a Nurse, and some just don't realize how it affects everyone differntly. She works in with the Covid patients, and most are unvaccinated by a much greater percentage than those that chose to get the vaccines. Will keep you in my prayers.

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  38. I’m sorry for the loss of your husband.

    Laurie
    Ridge Haven Homestead

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  39. I am so sorry for your loss. (Dave is also my husband's name.) My sincerest condolences.

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  40. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

    Big healing hug. ♥

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  41. We are all so sorry for your loss. The only positive is that he chose to take the risks and it is what he wanted. Sadly, it was not a wise choice. We are thankful you have recovered and we send lots of love and hugs to you during this extremely sad and difficult time.

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  42. So sorry for your loss! Big hugs from South Africa!

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  43. I am so sorry to hear this. Sorry for your loss. Sending you positive thoughts and prayers.

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  44. My heartfelt condolences for you!! Huge hugs from North Germany.

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  45. Dear Sue,

    My heartfelt condolences.
    You have shared deep, loving posts about Dave in the past and its heart-breaking to see how Covid got him. I feel you. Early last year this time, my only brother as young as 55 succumbed to Covid. We didn't have vaccines by then.

    Praying for Dave to rest peacefully cradled in almighty's caring arms.
    Love, big hugs and strength to you.

    Natasha

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  46. We are so very sorry for your loss, sending big hugs from the UK!

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  47. OMG. I just saw this. I a so, so sorry. I am shocked. I hope you are ok and have good people around you to help you through this. What a devastating loss for you. I really don't know what to say. I can't imagine what you are going through. Please take very good care of yourself.

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  48. So sorry for your loss but thank you for sharing this. If it helps just one person to make the right choice and get their vaccine then at least a tiny bit of good has come from it happening

    Molly

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  49. My heart is breaking for you! I am grateful you have wonderful people around you to uplift you as you walk the course of the next few days, weeks, and years. Hugs from Atlanta!

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  50. I am so sorry to hear this. It is shocking and I can understand the pain. Be strong and stay safe!

    Amila - leisureandme.com

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  51. Oh I am so sorry to hear this news about your husband. I have been in blogging hibernation for a few weeks, so missed seeing your post. How devastating for you. I hope you are learning to cope in your new reality. Sending you hugs.

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