My husband died of covid on January 7, 2022, and finally the gravestone has arrived. I didn't realize what a gut-wrenching thing it would be to see it.
As time went on after his death, I realized that the closest analogy I could come up with is that losing a spouse is like learning to live with an amputation. I'll get used to it, but something very important will always be missing. And then I remembered Genesis 2:24: "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." And suddenly the "amputation" analogy seemed truer than ever.
I miss you so much, Dave.
Our hearts are with you. Much appreciate your honest and insightful wisdom. I will cherish it to my heart and remember you in my prayers. God bless you. Wishing you a peaceful and healing time. God bless you
ReplyDeleteI"m so sorry for what you're going through, thinking of you here xxx
ReplyDeleteJust wanted to send you some virtual hugs. Take care.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry about your loss.
ReplyDeleteIt is hard losing a parent.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry. In a lifetime together, 10 months is nothing so the pain is understandably still there. I really feel for you and wish I had better words. There is really no comfort, but I think the amputation analogy is good. In time it might get easier but it may never feel 'normal' to you. Please do something lovely for yourself this week. It's rough.
ReplyDeleteSorry for your loss -it seems you had a great relationship and you will ever have him deep in your heart.
ReplyDeleteAll the best
My caring comment is a drop in the bucket of your sorrow. The wound will remain, but some healing of that terrible wrenching will someday come. Just walk each day through looking as if you could share what you see with him still.
ReplyDeleteI wish I had better comforting words to say, dear Sue.
ReplyDeleteSending you lots of hugs instead. 🌹
Sad to read, Prayers _()_
ReplyDeleteI guess seeing your husbands gravestone is like going through his death all over again. My heart goes out to you all, I am going to the funeral of a dear friend's husband tomorrow, so my heart goes out to you too. Take care, treasure your memories, thankyou for sharing, and for your linkup.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry. Sending you lots of love.
ReplyDelete-Soma
Losing the other half or the soul mate is very painful after having lived as one for so many years. He will always remain in your heart and the memories will always be alive.
ReplyDeleteThis is so sad, Suzanne. I admire your devotion and strength.
ReplyDeleteYou are an amazing strong person, writing about your loss. And I think also that the analogy is good, because I've read that the body feel energetically the missing area. He will always be in your heart.
ReplyDeleteBe well and strong! GOD bless you!
So sorry that this picked at the wound of losing your beloved. Sending love.
ReplyDeleteBig healing hugs. ♥
ReplyDeleteThat is a simple and meaningful gravestone.
ReplyDeleteWe can't even begin to imagine what you are going through, Sue. Sending you love and prayers.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteMy heart goes out to you. May your many good memories continue to help sustain you, and may those memories be a blessing. Alana ramblinwitham.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteSuzanne,
ReplyDeleteI've been so wrapped up in my own crazy life that I have lost my way doing many of the things I enjoyed in Blogosphere. I'm truly sorry to read the news just now that you lost your husband earlier in the year. I can only imagine your feelings as an amputee. I think that's a good way to describe such a loss and one I would certainly feel. DH and I are super close. It's hard to think about life without him. Selfishly, I pray that I never will and yet I know one of us will out live the other unless God takes us both at the same time. The comfort any Christian husband and wife can cling to is knowing one day, they'll be reunited with the love of their lives. Hopefully fond memories you have of Dave will ease the grief with time. God bless you, my dear!
Loss 3 1/2 years in, and yes the amputation analgy is great. Mine feels like half of me is gone and a black hole at times. So sorry your hubby was loss during the pandemic. With mine, which isn't great either, but he had copd for 7 years so his was not as much as a shock as suddenly with no idea. I still have many bad days, but not nearly like during the first couple years. Hugs
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine the heartbreak you are going through and wish the best for you.
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine how hard it is to love the love of your life. You have been very strong Sue. Wishing you all the best Sue.
ReplyDeleteOh, dear blogfriend. I`m feeling with you.
ReplyDeleteMany, many hugs by Heidrun
My Condolences
ReplyDeleteMuch💛love
Sending you a virtual hug and prayers.
ReplyDeleteEspecially this time of year, keep your memories close to your heart!
ReplyDeleteStay strong!